“Finding myself” vs “Healing”
Updated: Aug 3, 2021
As I grew into my adult years, and began dating, I would always hear about how so-and-so left their woman/man in order to find themselves. Then the terminology, as loosely as it was said, always had a sentiment that meant a person wasn’t ready to settle down or that they were confused about their life decisions. Now as I’m entering my 40’s, the word “healing” has taken over amongst my peers.
Can you imagine all of the mess that one person can go through in 40 years? Every year we face some kind of trial or tribulation that makes us question our purpose in life. Although a temporary setback, that trial faced in one year seems like it’s the end. Now I’ve grown to appreciate everything I’ve gone through. Even when I’m going through a rough patch, I’m more grateful, because I know that it will further advance my healing.
You have the right to take all the time needed to heal. Heal from those decades of triumph. Heal from the broken hearts. Heal the scars that never allowed you to love yourself. It’s so important and so necessary. Never feel shame in finding and being the best version of yourself.